A Place That Still Feels Like Home

A Place That Still Feels Like Home

I hate writing anything about Key West that isn’t glowing, because the island will always hold a special place in my heart. But it’s hard to ignore what’s been happening — the gays are disappearing. Maybe it’s because people no longer need to travel so far south when Fort Lauderdale and Miami offer vibrant, younger options just a short flight or drive away.

When I checked into Island House this summer, I hardly left the resort. Why would I? The facility has everything: a 24/7 bar and restaurant, a sauna, steam room, hot tubs, a play room, and more. It’s beautifully maintained and still has that unmistakable feeling of old Key West — the ease of meeting new friends, the freedom to be yourself, and the comfort of knowing you’re in a space created for you.

I love that the owners proudly state it’s for gay men only. While the city requires them to accept everyone into the bar and restaurant, I’m happy to report that during my stay, I didn’t see any outsiders coming through. And let me be clear — I love my straight friends. I value them deeply. But some spaces need to be for gay men only. Not because of dislike or exclusion, but because these spaces were built as safe havens for a community that, not so long ago, had very few. We don’t need bachelorette parties in all-male resorts or bars. There are plenty of other spaces to celebrate with your girl bestie.

I’m sad for the younger generation who will never fully know the fight, the sweat, and the tears it took to create spaces that were special for gay men. They are missing a beautiful community — one built from resilience, solidarity, and the joy of finally having a place where we could exist without fear. That’s a kind of magic you can’t recreate overnight.

My only observation? The clientele skewed older. Maybe that’s because I was visiting in the off-season, or maybe Island House’s pricing has put it out of reach for many under 60. Still, every conversation was warm, every smile genuine, and it reminded me how rare it is to have a place that’s unapologetically for gay men.

Next door, something new is taking shape — Island-Mate Manor. It’s not part of Island House, but it’s a beautifully done, separate property whose guests are granted full access to Island House facilities. The Manor offers 30-day rentals only, and the units are fully equipped to make a month-long stay easy and comfortable. They’re also a little more affordable than staying at Island House itself, but with the same full access just steps away. I’d definitely consider spending a month there — maybe not in the heat of summer again, but in full season? I’m sure it’s a blast.

The Pulse of Tropical Heat

This time, I extended my trip to experience Tropical Heat — a long weekend that promises “hot fun in the sun and beyond.” And it delivered. The energy was vibrant and happy, reminiscent of Key West past. The age group was still mostly 50+, but there were younger guys in the mix too. Tropical Heat has become a reunion weekend for many, drawing people from all over the world. There were pool parties, bar parties, and a few “late-night parties” you’ll have to look up yourself. I had to leave the morning those kicked off, but friends told me they were a lot of fun.

There are still several bars to explore that cater to the LGBTQ+ community, though I was surprised to hear the city even considered removing the painted rainbow crosswalk — something the community had to fight hard to save. To me, that signals a real shift: a Key West that’s changing, while locals and longtime visitors fight to keep its history and spirit alive.

Why Puerto Vallarta Feels Like Old Key West

I truly feel Key West still has a lot to offer. But living in Puerto Vallarta now, I realize I’m surrounded by community every single day. Here, it’s almost to the point you need to schedule of “a day off.” There’s always something happening: bars, clubs, drag shows, live music, brunches — the list goes on.

And the kicker? It’s cheaper. A night out in PV often costs a fraction of what you’d spend in Florida. Drinks, tours, and shows are all more affordable — which means you can do more and experience more without breaking the bank.

Gay Puerto Vallarta: Things You Can’t Miss

If you’re craving that same spark of connection you once felt in Key West, you’ll find it all day, every day in Puerto Vallarta. Here are just a few of the countless things to do:

• Jets Naked Boat Tour – A legendary day trip at sea: music, cocktails, snorkeling stops, and clothing-optional fun with a lively all-gay crowd.

• Banana Factory – Known for some of the most budget-friendly drinks in town. Four strong cocktails for $12? Yes, please.

• La Noche – A three-level gay bar with go-go dancers, rooftop views, and late-night energy that never disappoints.

• Industry – The after-hours club where the party really gets going. Expect lights, beats, and a crowd that doesn’t want the night to end.

• Snorkeling Tours – PV’s coastline is stunning, with hidden coves and vibrant reefs. Plenty of tours lean into an LGBTQ+ friendly vibe.

• Spartacus Sauna – A popular men’s-only spa and social space, complete with pool, hot tubs, and private areas.

• Mantamar Beach Club – The heart of daytime social life in the Romantic Zone. Think infinity pool, cabanas, DJs, and a friendly, international crowd.

And that’s only scratching the surface. Add in weekly drag brunches, cabaret shows, live music, rooftop bars, and the sheer warmth of the people — and it’s no wonder Puerto Vallarta has become the global gay destination.

Tips for Island House

• Don’t overlook the food — it’s excellent. Enjoy it often, but also take time to explore some of the other great restaurants around town.

• Bring your own alcohol if you want to save a little on the 24/7 bar prices at the IH Café. Cocktails run about $14.00 each.

• Make the most of happy hour and pool parties — they’re some of the easiest ways to meet people.

• Spend time on the sundeck both day and night. Star gaze, and you might even see a moon or two.

• Most rooms are equipped with microwaves and refrigerators, and the property is pet-friendly (with some restrictions).

• Staff makes the stay even better: Paul at the front desk is excellent, Chris the café manager keeps things running smoothly, and Ivan’s smile and attentiveness are worth mentioning.

• You don’t need a car — parking is hectic. Walk, bike, or grab a ride.

Two Destinations, One Spirit

For me, Key West will always be special. Island House remains a safe, vibrant sanctuary that feels like the heartbeat of old Key West — a place every gay man should experience at least once.

But if you’re looking for that same spirit wrapped up in a bigger, louder, more affordable package — Puerto Vallarta is waiting for you. Different coasts, different countries, but the same heartbeat of connection, freedom, and joy.

And when you’re ready to experience PV, let me know. I’ll help you find a great rental — and point you toward all the hot spots so you can dive right into the community I’m lucky enough to call home.

Will Hutt

Coldwell Banker La Costa

@BeachPleasePVR

Will.Hutt@cblacosta.com